A care guide is brilliant! Going to sit with this myself. One practice I've been cultivating when I'm overwhelmed with grief is saying "one need at a time," and then reaching out to my loves to meet one of those needs. Yesterday, I needed a hug. So, I texted a friend! It takes so much work and bravery to know what's nurturing. Proud of you everyday for making these intentional choices 💛💛💛
“What would feel nourishing to receive?” — I’m going to be sitting with that reframe for a long time.
So much of the work I do is helping people build exactly what Jamila describes here: a document that names their needs and their signs of struggling before the house is on fire.
It’s remarkable how much lighter that burden becomes once it’s written down instead of carried silently, waiting to be guessed at.
The line about needing help disrupting your ego-identity hit hard too.
So many of the “strong friends” I’ve sat with are the ones who never learned how to be on the receiving end of care — and it costs them.
A care guide is brilliant! Going to sit with this myself. One practice I've been cultivating when I'm overwhelmed with grief is saying "one need at a time," and then reaching out to my loves to meet one of those needs. Yesterday, I needed a hug. So, I texted a friend! It takes so much work and bravery to know what's nurturing. Proud of you everyday for making these intentional choices 💛💛💛
Thank you for this, Jamila.
“What would feel nourishing to receive?” — I’m going to be sitting with that reframe for a long time.
So much of the work I do is helping people build exactly what Jamila describes here: a document that names their needs and their signs of struggling before the house is on fire.
It’s remarkable how much lighter that burden becomes once it’s written down instead of carried silently, waiting to be guessed at.
The line about needing help disrupting your ego-identity hit hard too.
So many of the “strong friends” I’ve sat with are the ones who never learned how to be on the receiving end of care — and it costs them.
Thank you for this, Jamila.